Today we celebrated my grandson's first birthday. He's actually one tomorrow, but since it's a weekday, and he doesn't know what day it is, my daughter opted to celebrate today. His father's side of the family is pretty big......so big it makes our side look pretty insignificant (there's 4 of us and about a gazillion of them).
When there are that many people in one room that are all related, and you're not of them, it can kind of make you feel a little on the "outside". My way around that is to be the obnoxious camera person. It serves several purposes....I document the event for the honored person, it's a great way to get into a conversation with someone, and it keeps me busy.
I had never thought about what it was like for my mother when I had children, and they had two grandmother's with families of their own.......I wish she was still alive to ask her if she ever felt they way I do sometimes. Blending families with grandchildren is not unique, but definitely something that can be challenging. I am just grateful that my daughters, and grandchildren have others in their lives that love them too.